Hi Neely,

I have a really close friend whose girlfriend I have also become close with. My husband and I double-date with them and go on trips together all the time, and we all get along really well. A couple weeks ago I was out at a club with friends. It was late, like 3 a.m., and the club was pretty big and crowded. As I was making my way through the crowd I saw my friend’s girlfriend making out with some random dude and acting all lovey-dovey with him. I was so shocked. She didn’t see me, because I quickly ducked back into the crowd. But now I don’t know what to do. It feels awkward hanging around them, and I haven’t told her yet what I saw. I know my friend would be crushed if I told him – my loyalty is first to him, but I just feel I have been put in a very awkward situation. My friend has been with this girl for a year, and I know he is serious about her. What do you think I should do?

Witness to cheating, New York

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  • 23 seconds: It’s really difficult to know what to do in these situations. If you say something, he may get angry and think you’re meddling; if you don’t and he finds out you knew all along but didn’t tell him he may also be angry. So…you need to think through a plan of action carefully!
  • 50 seconds: Here are 3 things to consider when you’ve witnessed your friend being cheated on – TUNE IN TO SEE WHAT THESE 3 THINGS ARE.
  • 2:59: Also consider that you may very well lose his friendship but at least you know you thought through the situation and did what you thought was right and in his best interest.

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Neely Steinberg is a Blast correspondent. Follow her on Twitter @NeelySteinberg She answers your dating/relationship questions in her Blast video advice column MP4 Love.

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